I don’t normally write about my extended family for fear that they will find out that I think they are crazy, but I just cannot hold it in any longer.
My MIL is here for the week to help me out since I cannot lift ANYTHING, much less a 30 pound toddler, and while I am extremely thankful that I have the help, it is almost killing me. The kindest terms I can use to describe her are manipulative, controlling and a little off balance. My hubby agrees, so I don’t feel too badly.
She has been setting the scene for several days on how she will “be happy to stay through until Saturday” so that we can go out and have time to ourselves. I know, you are thinking, “Wow, if only I had that luxury! This girl is nuts!” The thing is, it’s so excruciating, that it’s just not worth it.
We have a sitter for Saturday night to begin with. Add to that the absolute insanity that ensues when she is around and you will see why I would rather be in prison in a third world country than have her stay longer than necessary. Tonight she brought it up again, after we had told her “no thanks” over the last several days. She got very insistent, and so did I. She gave her CLASSIC line of, “well, let’s see what happens and how the day unfolds”, and I said “NO, I have already made up my mind!”
Then she said, “We’ll see” and went to bed. Has to have the last word. I really want to curse, but my sweet friend Kate might think I’m terrible. AGGHHHH!!!! @#()$#$)%)*^$)%*#)$%@)#($@!#^#)
How do you deal with someone who refuses to accept your answer? I do not want to get ugly, but really, short of that, I don’t think she will get “it”. The really funny thing is that if someone DOES get really angry with her, she doesn’t seem to acknowledge it. Maybe she realizes how nuts she is.
FTR, this is the same woman who sat in my driveway for HOURS waiting for us to come home from a vacation (on which I had miscarried). She didn’t have a clue when we would be home, so no idea how long she had waited. Also the same woman who swore she was in the neighborhood and wanted to see the new baby (at the time lived 5.5 hours away). There is SO, SO, SO much more, but I really shouldn’t get into it.
If she doesn’t leave tomorrow, I am buying a LARGE bottle of wine at 10 AM and drinking myself into oblivion.
3 Comments
February 23, 2007 at 9:54 am
I would never think you’re terrible!!!
Some things just can’t be done in love, like dealing with a MIL! Should I just plan to pick you up at 10am tomorrow?!
February 23, 2007 at 11:36 am
you’re not terrible. this is totally normal.
can you offer to go out on friday as well? then you won’t have to be with her and she feels useful and she can still leave saturday? perhaps a visit your nearest neighborhood martini bar would be helpful.
February 25, 2007 at 9:35 pm
Aren’t mother-in-laws lots of fun!?
You are so normal to have these feelings… and it’s great that your husband agrees with you.
My mother-in-law drives me nuts, too, even though she (usually) means well.
I hope you are free of the insanity soon!